Posted 23/06/10
I was so close to breaking.
We met some people in Central Park. I offered them jelly beans. They offered me watermelon. 'As I went to bite, they said - just so you know, it's spiked with Vodka...'
I dropped it cold. It never touched my mouth. But close.
Then, at a restaurant with Jules, she gets a bad glass of wine and says, 'try this, it's terrible'. I lean in to taste... And then remember. Again, so close.
But I digress. As many smart people have said to me about HSM - surely abstinence isn't the point? Surely it's about moderation?
And while I agree with them - my comeback is always the same. Until you abstain, you never realise how easy it is to say yes and how hard it is to say no.
And more importantly, you don't build up any capacity for refusal.
Six weeks in and saying no is easy. Asking for soda and lime is natural.
One thing I have noticed is that when you go to restaurants and everyone's ordering drinks and you're not, the bill always gets split evenly at the end, meaning I subsidise other people's drinking.
This is something I think must happens to lots of HSMers.
Not drinking feels very natural now. I agree with Chris that there's a huge market opportunity for sophisticated, non-alcoholic social drinks (that aren't juice, cordial or soft drink). I think HSMers might be a great source of ideas for what kind of drinks would be best here.
Finally - I have realised something through HSM - as much as I love wine and beer, the best number of drinks for me to have is zero.
This is a personal choice, made for me by me. But knowing now what my body's like without, I am confident that 'without' is when I'm at my best.
Nick.
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by Nick_crocker
23/06/10
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23/06/10
A few people have walked into a pub an accidentally (subconsciously) ordered a beer or wine and gone ‘shit!’ haha. I think, as you say, it doesn’t matter at all even if people end up taking a sip or whatever. It’s quite funny how much of an obstacle course it actually is though!
The asymmetrical tab-split – a problem I think we will always have to face. I think the only way around it is to turn into one of those wankers that orders ONLY perrier with half a muddled lime.
RE the drink – I completely agree – I have started to talk with a few organisations, but my problem is contacts. Going through the front door is such a long, ineffective process.
‘Thank you for your sponsorship request we regret…bla bla bla (standard response)’ – - ‘I wasn’t asking for sponsorship fuckers!!
It will happen eventually though!!
Have you managed to catch up with Andy yet?? I really hope you do, you two will really get along.