We all have them.  Friends who are positive influences in our lives and friends who, shall we say, are ‘enablers’.  By enablers I mean people who, while they might be good people or good friends, quite often encourage or support us in areas we perhaps don’t need support or encouragement in.   And we can be oblivious to this.

I have one friend in particular who I would consider my enabler.  Our friendship started at a work drinks function and everytime we caught up, it would often turned into a big night.    I realised that I couldn’t think of one time where he and I caught up without drinking.

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I happened upon an interesting quote a couple of weeks ago, and it’s been since starting my HSM that it keeps reverberating in the background of my mind.

“Character is who you are when no-one’s watching”.   For me, this created a sort of awakening and a new resolve.  I had often thought of ”character” as how we represent ourselves to and for others.   Which (truth be told) made it very easy for me to opt out, to not succceed or to commit half heartedly, seeing that I was doing or being based on ”others”.   All too often we place more value on what others think of us, or expect from us.  I’m learning that character is deeper than that.  So, who am I when no-one’s watching?  What is it that I am seeking to achieve or be?  Why is it important to me to succeed?

Today is day 10 for me,  of no alcohol.  I survived my first weekend without grog!  And I woke up each morning of the weekend with this amazing energy.  It felt really good to get out and enjoy my weekend without the horrid fogginess of a hangover!  I even went to the gym and trained for a couple of hours first thing saturday morning (and that never happens!!!).

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Today is officially the first day into my 3 month HSM.  I’ve been toying with starting this challenge for the last few weeks, but lacked the courage and ignored , no defied, the commitment required.

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